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Daily Archives: July 21, 2011

This is a no brainer…

I would not have left a friend angry…it would be very rare.

If it happened this way, I’d be at that person’s side immediately.

Please, never leave someone angry,

and always say “I love you” when parting…even for a short time….

even when parting angry.





On Wednesday, the portrait painters hire a model and see if we can get a likeness or something close ! We are not professional portrait painters, just artists looking for challenge...and it always is! This is NOT my was no where near finished.


The warm weather...with some prudent watering...makes for some gorgeous flowers out front of the house.


The process:

Wednesday/portrait painters/college student/pretty

young models/challenge/no “character lines”

Hot/muggy/on coast/celebrate day

hair cut/at home/ small town living benefit

evening/gathering prompts/writing group fall


Love Wednesday/summer artists/challenging models


A victim of the heat yesterday when I tried to get my thoughts together.  I did reply to Jenna’s post and will include those in these thoughts…This is one area I have definite ideas and beliefs and don’t have to search to express them, just keep my words down to a reasonable length.

As a RN I have seen first hand the effects of drugs,

including marijuana, long term on the body and the mind.

The damage to the body and mind is irreparable to the user,

and when a mother takes drugs while pregnant

there is horrendous permanent damage to the fetus….

seeing an infant detox has to be the most heart breaking moment in someone’s life.

Seeing a person detox from prescription drugs

is just as heart breaking as detoxing from illegal drugs.


My personal experience of seeing a person detox from prescription drugs was Xanax,

and it was in a rehab center where I spent six weeks…

The Meadows in Wickenburg AZ….

one week longer than the usual five

because I was not able to identify anger

in my own thoughts and behavior.

I was in the rehab center because of

Post traumatic stress



I could not let go of trying to be perfect

at a job where it was impossible

to be perfect when counting on others

to do their jobs “perfectly”

when I had no control over the behavior of others.

While there,

I was diagnosed with “emerging agoraphobia”

…my life….

outside of work, where I was totally functional….

I was paralyzed by fear of going anywhere alone…

my life was church … work…home. and Repeat.

Sorry for the digression,

but I think the explanation

of my experience at a well-known rehab center

shows why I have some of the views I do on alcohol

and drugs.


Addiction to prescription drugs is also a heart breaking event to the person,

family and community.

It invites the person to go to any means to obtain

the medications that are increasingly difficult to obtain

due to monitoring of prescribing and dispensing of the medications.

Alcohol is also a serious drug that causes damage to the body and the mind…

and to the family and community.

The fact that alcohol is often mixed with drugs is particularly dangerous

and I needn’t spend a lot of time on the dangers of drinking and driving.

My one point I want to make on this is

that I think everyone needs to develop a backbone

when it comes to taking the keys away

from an impaired driver.

I had to learn that myself,

being one to back away from social confrontations

and not wanting to “make a scene”.

Recently I have noticed how seriously

people who are “designated drivers”

take their role.

I am proud of them…

it takes vigilance when out with others

to be sure that your drinks are not spiked…

I make sure I pour my own non-alcoholic drinks

or bring my own and guard it.

There is some quirk of some peoples thinking

that it is their “duty” to convince the DDrivers

or those who don’t drink because of alcoholism

or just don’t drink,

to have “just one” drink.

I don’t mince words with these people…

used to try to be polite,

but they seem to be determined

to undermine the non-drinkers.


There is definite damage to the body from


The effects vary from person to person,

but it is heart breaking to see the disease process

and/or alcohol dementia.


A shout out to my friend, Jennifer, who celebrates 18 years sobriety  7/21/2011.


I realize that my views are “old fashioned” in many ways,

especially on marijuana,

which I do not feel is a harmless drug

as many do.

I feel that it is important to express these views.

And, I do want to let others know that it is also from personal

experience with prescription drugs that doctors “back in the day”

prescribed to keep me “functional” versus recommending

a life style change,

and that I come from a family that has alcoholism in their history

and that I was on the road to some serious drinking with alcoholic

written all over it,

when I became ill and stopped “for medicinal purposes”

(I  I HAD to use that phrase…my great-aunt had a glass of wine

every evening for “medicinal purposes” … this is the first time

I can remember it flowing in so nicely to a sentence ☺.)